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The Facts: Globe and Mail

Date: JUL-07-01
Source: The Globe and Mail
Keywords: sin, spanking, CAS
Comment: This seems to be a pretty fair presentation of the facts.
Posted: JUL-16-01
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So is it spanking or is it child abuse?
By Margaret Wente

Aylmer, Ont., is Mennonite country. It's a pretty sleepy place. Until three days ago, the police department's biggest case was a bank robbery back in 1997. (They caught the guy.)

Last Wednesday came an even bigger case. It took all the cops in town, plus heavy reinforcements, to seize the seven children of Herbert and Emily Greber (not their real names). The police action was, once again, successful.

Mr. and Mrs. Greber have spanked their children from time to time using an object other than their hands. They refuse to say they'll never do it again. Therefore, according to the local Children's Aid Society, they are guilty of child endangerment. And that's why the police, at the request of the CAS, took away their kids.

The Grebers are religious. So is the CAS. It believes that corporal punishment is a sin, and that the Grebers are sinners.

Until two years ago, the Greber family lived in a Mennonite community in Mexico. They are Canadian citizens, but speak mostly German. There, they met an Aylmer-area pastor, Henry Hildebrandt, who persuaded them to return to Canada and join the Church of God. The church is quite traditional, though not, Mr. Hildebrandt says, as strict as the Mennonites. "We are Bible-believing people. We stress holy living in our daily lives."

The Bible says spare the rod and spoil the child. The pastor describes the rod as a last resort, but a necessary one. "You'll never be able to rear a child without love. But when they cross a line, they need to know there is a possibility there could be corporal punishment."

The Grebers, who are in their 30s, have three girls and four boys, aged 6 to 14. They live in a neat brick bungalow in town.

The pastor doesn't know how the family came to the notice of the CAS. Perhaps a neighbour phoned. Someone else says it happened when one of the kids was scalded in an accident last year and was treated at home rather than taken to hospital. In any event, three days ago, a CAS worker showed up to search for signs of abuse. She brought a policeman with her.

The children were asked if they'd been spanked. One boy said he'd been spanked toward the end of June. "There was no mark on him and I was very comfortable it was being done the right way," the pastor says. "We expected that after the physical exam the children would be released."

Instead, the CAS worker began to question Mrs. Greber. Do they spank their children? She said yes. Do they ever use an object? Yes. "I told them this was what our belief was as far as corporal punishment," says the pastor. Would Mrs. Greber promise never again to use an object? No, she would not promise. "They were just about to go into it deeper when I interfered," says the pastor. "I said, 'I think we are giving you ammunition, not information.' Then the caseworker said there was no further point in talking."

By now, a crowd from the church had assembled around the house. The pastor was urged to help remove the children peacefully, but he refused. Now the children were upset. They started screaming. Reinforcements were called. Soon, 10 or 12 police cruisers were on the scene, along with two more people from the CAS.

It took three burly cops to haul away the oldest boy. In the photos someone took, he is kicking and screaming like a little tiger. The six-year-old girl screamed, "Help me! Help me! I don't want to go," as a female officer carried her away.

The children are in temporary foster care until the matter comes before family court. The director of the local CAS, Steve Bailey, won't discuss the case but blames the pastor and members of the church for making matters worse.

Meantime, the clerk at Aylmer's police station says she's getting calls from anxious parents asking if spanking is against the law. She has two young children, and doesn't agree with corporal punishment. She's from Mennonite stock, but times have changed. "Everyone is starting to discipline differently from the way their grandparents did," she tells me. "Maybe their grandparents used a horsewhip." Her own parents sometimes used a fly swatter.

I asked her what she uses.

"I hold them. We took a course. It's all on video. 'Growing kids God's way,' it's called. It deals with today's society."

In the past few years, many people have come to believe that spanking is wicked, and that corporal punishment will scar a child's psyche, if not his body, forever. Yet our child-protection agents exercise a peculiar double standard. They think it's child abuse to hit your kid. They are very suspicious of people who take their parenting lessons from the Bible. But every day, they choose to leave helpless infants with their single teenage mothers on the streets. Those moms have never heard of Dr. Spock, never mind the Bible.

Child abuse is like any other sin. It's frequently in the eye of the beholder.

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